Today, I feel like a failure.
Will anybody follow through?
I know it is not good to put your fate in the hands of other people (and I avoid doing so as much as possible), but sometimes asking favors is necessary. In my experience, people may not reject you, but after saying they will do something (hopefully relatively simple) for you, they do not! If this were happening with one person it would not bother me much, but when it is happening with a lot of people at once it makes me feel pretty down. My advice for anybody else in this position is to:
a) Remind people of what they said they’ll do and kindly let them know how much following through means to you.
b) Contact more people to reach out and help you, which means more slowness/rejection but also more opportunity for results.
c) Stop trying to communicate with those people who consistently neglect to do what they say they will.
d) Appreciate the people who follow through, then see if they will do more to help
It is important to remember that things were not always this way and there is no need for them to stay this way either. When you feel like a failure, practice remembering why you undertook the particular mission in the first place. You’ll either conclude that feeling like a failure now isn’t that terrible of a deal and stay focused on the big picture, or you’ll decide the mission is not worth it and consider other options.
Great post Laura. People are quick to say yes but often don’t follow through with things. The point to keep in mind is that if you are failing it means you are trying something, that you are taking a risk and the only way to have success in anything is to try and to take risks.
Every single person we think of as successful has had many failures before and after their “success”. It’s not important whether you success or fail, it’s important that you stick to your mission, whatever that is
Keep well Laura, all the best!
Rohan.