Author: Laura Susanne
On December 19 I will be at Fitness Together in Bethesda beginning at 6 pm. After finding out about the event through my own research (a little late) I asked if it would be possible to join a group of authors, artists, health and healing professionals who will each have a table and be talking about their work. I talked to the organizer and she kindly suggested I bring some of my books even though there is not space for me to have a table. So, I will be there networking and bring a bag with books to sign. There will also be a raffle and chance to win a free copy of Sick: In The Name Of Being Well, I Made Myself Sick.
The location of Fitness Together is 6708 Wisconsin Avenue, suite 301. I hope to see you there! And, if you’ve read my book or been to one of my talks, please share your testimonial. Here is a simple example by a student at Montgomery College:
Sick is full of personal stories and helps to connect if even if you don’t have the same problems. After listening to Laura present, I understand better the details of anorexia. I am thankful for the tips she offered regarding how a mother can spot the problem and read the symptoms.
Help me keep up the good work by buying the book as a present for your friends. Thank you, and I look forward to sharing more about my upcoming fiction book soon.
“Not everybody is made for the same kind of exercise, diet, lifestyle, etc. What matters is that you find a way to be friends with your own body and nurture yourself with the activities and practices that make you feel good on a regular basis.”
By: Alice Dessauer
On Tuesday, September 10, 2013, Laura Susanne Yochelson visited Alice Dessauer’s women’s studies class. Yochelson spoke with students about her book, Sick: In The Name Of Being Well, I Made Myself Sick, which recalls the author’s personal experience with anorexia nervosa. This is Yochelson’s third time at Montgomery College, and the second time that students have been assigned to read her book.
In May I featured a post on Eldon Taylor’s book, I Believe. More recently, I was selected to participate in the blog tour for another book by Eldon Taylor titled Choices and Illusions. This is the fifth edition of the book, which is now available! I received a PDF copy in advance to share my thoughts in a blog.
So, the answer is… I really liked Choices and Illusions! Like I Believe, Choices and Illusions was an eye-opening read. Choices and Illusions is a book that makes you want to keep going in the sense that chapters flow well, but readers never quite now what is coming next. In particular, Eldon Taylor has a unique writing style. He weaves together research, references to science and spirituality, passages, interviews and stories in order to get his points across. One of these important points, reiterated towards the end of Choices and Illusions, is simply to make as much as you can of life. Of course, believing in luck and that good things happen counts, too!
The subtitle of Choices and Illusions is How Did I Get Where I Am, and How Do I Get to Where I Want to Be? I kept this in mind while reading the book, and Taylor encourages readers to think about their reactions to the information he presents along the way. Especially for those open to changing their outlook on life, Choices and Illusions provides unique perspectives. Taylor embraces practices such as hypnosis and meditation, but even those unfamiliar with such methods can appreciate the book for its additional scientific and mathematical components, especially chapter nine, which offers “A Simple Model of Mind and Behavior.”
There is something for everybody in Choices and Illusions. In chapter four, “Creating Self,” the author includes a breakdown of “The Four Selves” based on categories originally developed by a psychology professor at Yale. Taylor then goes on to describe each of these four selves in his own clever way. He refers to a story shared earlier in the text about an eagle. This eagle finds herself in a chicken yard and learns the way or the chickens but when she gets the chance to be with an eagle is unable to recognize herself as being one. This story demonstrates how easy it is to think that we are something or someone different from our “actual self.” It also shows the essential role belief plays in perception.
Next, Taylor provides images of “visual illusions” in chapter five. Readers receive the opportunity to explore how their minds work—ultimately so that new ways of thinking can be embraced! Taylor’s book brings awareness to readers and how the messages we absorb (often sub-consciously) shape us on a daily basis. In this way, Choices and Illusions is an educational read that teaches the importance of working to become more aware and taking responsibility if you wish to change and realize the power of choice. Reading Eldon Taylor’s book provides an excellent opportunity to break through stereotypes and assumptions in order to embrace new opportunities for empowerment.
More information about Choices and Illusions can be found at www.eldontaylor.com. The book is also available at Amazon.com and through Barnes and Noble.
*Marcus and Ross are made-up characters. This story is for fun.
In addition to Rocket Ship Guy and Patrick, I thought about Marcus and Ross. First came Marcus. Though never close with Marcus, he is a friend of Dan’s, my older brother. Dan told me I should watch Marcus present at an important conference related to work.
The night before Marcus’s presentation, I had a very rich dream that Marcus was “the one,” only to see a wedding ring already on his finger! Though I did not find myself attracted to Marcus, I also did not open my mouth, which made me feel like a failure. Nothing felt real, and all I could think of was leaving the uncomfortably up-tight and serious environment of the event.
Though unlike the situation with Marcus I did actually talk to Ross, the story turned out to be quite similar. The first thing I thought when I met Ross was “I’m disappointed.” I realized either during or immediately after shaking hands with Ross how deeply he was looking at me. In an almost-haunted kind of way Ross forced himself into my heart, which made me nauseous. It was difficult for me to maintain Ross’s gaze—until I absorbed his penetration and my eyes fluttered. In the next moment I decided Ross “just isn’t me!” Also, Ross did not take good care of himself. His hair was messy. His stubble was too stubbly. He was lifeless, dry and insensitive. In the end, I decided Ross was a flake. It was easy to move forward from there.
Glen was the first boy I talked about having feelings for to Mom and close friends. I saw Glen as my rocket ship into a new and better world after moving and idolized him. Alas, instead of flying off into space with rocket ship guy, I found myself with nothing worth living for when his family relocated. Though I did find new people after rocket ship guy, I settled for quite a bit less than him until meeting Patrick in tenth grade.
In class, Patrick sat next to me. Although we talked sometimes, I could not get the words out of my mouth to tell Patrick I liked him. Instead, I stroked my fingers up my arm and hoped to gain his attention sensually. Patrick was tall, skinny but not frail and blonde. He wore a hat, had long legs and a good energy about him. I especially appreciated Patrick’s fun and easy presence. Being around Patrick, his smile, his laugh and lightheartedness felt so good! Patrick made me want to be attractive.
In the end, I felt too threatened by other girls Patrick regularly hung out with to go forward with anything. These girls exhibited a kind of ownership over Patrick and had known him for much longer too. Anyways, although I enjoyed his influence, I am not sure if my values could mesh with Patrick’s personality in the long run. Alas, I lost sight of both my doubts and my desires when Patrick changed schools in eleventh grade, which was sad to me. Senior year, I found someone similar to Patrick but darker. I picked up almost immediately that my new guy was not the same inside as Patrick, even if he was more popular. Becoming acquainted was plenty.
When I decided to read The Demon Rolmar, I did not know what to expect! I do not usually read science fiction, but am pleased to say that I was presently surprised by the work of A.V. Griffin. Though her work is different than mine, I relate well to the author, who began writing her story as a student in college and holds a bachelor’s in psychology.
I think A.V. Griffin’s imagination is inspiring. From the get-go, A.V. Griffin draws readers in with the imagery she uses to describe people and places. The course of events throughout the book flows well. I especially enjoyed the author’s writing style and use of dialogue.
A.V. Griffin’s ability to come up with the idea of a new planet (called “Pentar”) is fascinating to me, and I think this book serves as a good escape read for those who tend to get very grounded in the stress of routine. Still, The Demon Rolmar is not so far-fetched that the story is unrelatable to everyday life. The book, which comes to about 150 pages, teaches important lessons about demons, friendship, change, and the state of planet Earth. Furthermore, the back of the The Demon Rolmar includes a glossary, which helps clear up any confusion about the definitions of new terms the author introduces. Though some names seemed strange at first, readers do not feel inundated because the author includes characters with “normal” names too.
I wonder where A.V. Griffin will go from here! It would be interesting if she decided to write a series of stories or create a sequel to her first book. Will The Demon Rolmar be the next Harry Potter? You never know!
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1. Get up on your feet! Start by getting organized at home. Then, take a walk outside.
2. If you haven’t done so already, wash your face. Freshen up! Wear clothes that make you feel good.
3. When I’m feeling overwhelmed something as simple as lighting incense helps set the mood for me to focus. Smell is a powerful sense!
4. Minimize distractions. If you’re on the Internet, take a break from social media and clean out your e-mail inbox instead. Finish those drafts you said you would and send them off! It’ll feel better after
5. Laugh! My senior year of college I took a class in stress reduction and students learned all about the benefits of laughing. However silly it may sound, laughing really does have its benefits. Do some research about it!
Over the years I’ve read quite a few books, blog posts and articles on relationships that have impacted my way of thinking about them. Based on a continued process of observing the patterns in my life through talking, reading, writing and taking walks outside, I have come up with what I think is the most essential “rule of relationship.” Though the rule in itself may be a little cliche, the examples add color!
If you feel like you’re “chasing,” leave.
Note that in my rule, the reason you leave is because of what chasing does to you. And I didn’t say stop chasing, I said leave.
1. At work: Frank and Sheila
Frank is driving to a workshop with a new colleague, Sheila. Sheila, whom Frank recently met, is full of ideas and sets up a cornucopia expectations for how she wants to help Frank with his career. At the workshop Frank notices that although Sheila initially bubbles with enthusiasm, she runs herself dry and wants to leave mid-way through. In the weeks following the workshop, Frank initiates contact. Time and again Sheila provides Frank with a long list of reasons explaining why she is too busy to move forward. In short, Sheila wants to help but her style of doing things drains Frank! In order to re-energize himself, Frank backs away from Sheila (aka leaves the relationship). In the end, Frank is able to use Sheila’s lack of action as a motivator to drive his personal success.
2. Personal life: Theresa and Dan
Theresa and Dan grew up together until time and distance split the two. Theresa held near and dear her memories of Dan. Over a period of years, Theresa continued trying to contact Dan infrequently, but he rarely responded and arrived to their arrangements disrespectfully late. Though Dan always asked lots of questions about Theresa, when Theresa expressed interest in Dan he picked away at her instead. Otherwise, Dan was consumed with measuring up to his new, popular friends. In order for Theresa to let Dan go she had to examine her past and realize how much more there was to it than just her relationship with Dan. Theresa came to terms with seeing Dan as a symbol, not a friend.